What do you do as a hospital porter when somebody "pops
the question". You may wonder what I mean by that. It doesn't mean being
asked if you'll marry somebody (like the hell that would ever happen to a porter!), it means something very different. It was a
question I was luckily not asked very often. It was usually nurses who did it,
occasionally paramedics; rarely doctors. Usually I get a few minutes warning
before the bomb drops. A stupid condescending smile will come over their face;
and then, when we're alone together: "Ben... Ben. Come on now! How long
have you been a porter for now, Ben? You're an intelligent young man and you
obviously care. You really shouldn't be wasting your life doing something as
worthless as portering. Have you ever thought about going up the ladder;
becoming a nurse, an ODP, a surgical tech or a paramedic?" There are a
number of responses you can make, the most obvious and impulsive being to
shout: "Get out of my sight, you patronizing bitch!" Of course you
can't do that on duty. I usually take a deep breath and count to ten, and then
reply: "No, I'm too young and adventurous. I want more from life than a
boring civilian job can give me. If you're content to tootle (great word that) along in your bland and humdrum existence as
a nurse etc, then I'm pleased for you; but I am meant for a higher
destiny." If I am feeling more aggressive I generally turn the question
round: "Have you ever asked a nurse, paramedic, ODP etc if they've ever
thought about becoming a porter?" They will of course answer no. "Why
not?" They will then be forced into a corner where they have to admit they
consider HPing inferior. I can then say: "Right, well I have a much higher
opinion of the Hospital Portering Service then you do. I didn't become a HP
because I wanted to be something "better", but didn't have the
busfare upstairs! I joined the HP Service because I wanted to be a porter! I'm
proud to be a porter! Good day!" and I walk away.
I try to resist getting too angry when dealing with people
popping the question; this is because people who do it usually do not mean any
harm. They are being tactless rather than malicious. They've simply never
considered seeing the world the way I do. A response that is challenging and
robust, yet calm and polite, could educate them. Hurling abuse at them will
just drive them away. There is one exception to this, a man called Jack who
popped the question continuously to me. He literally did it every time he saw
me. He was a former porter who became an operating department practitioner, a
kind of theatre nurse. He was very keen on giving porters what he called
"the opportunity" to "better themselves". I don't object to
that in practical terms. If a HP wants to quit and pursue a civilian career,
that's up to them. The problem is, when Jack said "opportunity" what he
actually meant was "mandate". It is a very weird thing to be obsessed
with what a fellow grown man decides to do with their own life, but Jack was. I
do wonder if he was just being a windup merchant. Either way, his behaviour was
bizarre and disrespectful. He once shouted obscenities at me in a crowded pub.
He eventually moved to another hospital and we lost touch. I suppose I should
have just told him to get lost, but for some reason I never did. Maybe it was
because of my little "experiment", see: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2020/02/humiliation-reply-to-stefan-molyneux.html and: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2020/11/nice-guys-reply-to-stefan-molyneux.html.
I will have to return to this subject in a future article, but The Gas Spanner
programme linked below gives a few more details. Some people appear to have no
ability to introspect. They cannot assess their own actions against any
external standard other than popularity and peer approval. Resisting people
popping the question is not easy; it is actually far more difficulty than making
dignity statements. However, it can be done effectively with enough practice.
See here for more information: https://hpanwo-radio.blogspot.com/2020/12/the-gas-spanner-programme-7.html.
See here for more information: https://hpanwo-radio.blogspot.com/2020/12/the-gas-spanner-programme-7.html.
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