I'd like to provide some advice for hospital porters new to
the profession on a rather touchy personal subject; dating. Hospital portering
is an unusual experience because portering in the
UK
is male dominated. About 95% of porters are men; however in the NHS as a whole
46% of its servicepeople are female. This average varies depending on the
professions and unit. Nursing is still female dominated. A hospital might
appear to be the perfect place for a porter to meet a new partner, but unfortunately
it is not (Assuming you are a male heterosexual like me; I can't speak for the
alternatives). The NHS is very hierarchical; in fact its society is not unlike
the caste system of
India.
Porters are on the very lowest level of that pecking order and nurses very
rarely "date down". The old cliché of a nurse's ambition to marry a
doctor is completely real. Of those who do not marry doctors or have
relationships with them, they tend to choose very conventional men who are of
an equal or higher status to themselves. I did manage to go on romantic nights
out with nurses on three occasions during my twenty-three years of service.
None of these instances progressed to a full relationship. All three women lost
interest in me for the same reason; it was after they "popped the
question", see:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lt9VC005Ds0
and:
https://hpanwo-radio.blogspot.com/2020/12/the-gas-spanner-programme-7.html.
Of course there were porters who went out with nurses, but all of them were of
two varieties; either they were manifestly not wedded to hospital portering or
they were able to put on a good act, pretend to be an alpha, see the background
links below for details. Obviously both of those options are out of the
question for me. Of course not all nurses are the same; they are individuals
just like the rest of us, but I never encountered any such individual in my
entire career. Or to be precise, it is likely that I did, but peer pressure prevented
them from expressing their uniqueness, Conformity is such a prevalent factor in
the NHS. nevertheless, you still have a good chance of meeting somebody right
for you. There are many women in other PAM's such as domestic, admin, estates
and catering, where the taboo against going out with porters is lessened or
even absent. You might also meet somebody exceptional in your new life; a
courageous woman who battles against peer pressure. Just because I never did it
doesn't necessarily prevent you from doing so. It's important not to become cynical
and descend into the negative, bitter and heartbreaking world of MGTOW, see
background links. I am against creating a persona too. Just be yourself.
There's no point finding a girlfriend if they only way you can do so is hiding
your real personality beneath a fake facade. It's not a sellers' market out
there for a porter, but be positive, be friendly and be confident. There are
never guarantees, but you might meet somebody who will be a genuine companion
and will make you truly happy. good luck!
See here for
background: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2019/10/am-i-mgtow.html.
And: https://hpanwo-voice.blogspot.com/2016/12/why-do-women-never-date-nice-guys.html.
And: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2017/11/nice-guys-update.html.
And: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2020/11/nice-guys-reply-to-stefan-molyneux.html.