Dating Advice for HP's

 

I'd like to provide some advice for hospital porters new to the profession on a rather touchy personal subject; dating. Hospital portering is an unusual experience because portering in the UK is male dominated. About 95% of porters are men; however in the NHS as a whole 46% of its servicepeople are female. This average varies depending on the professions and unit. Nursing is still female dominated. A hospital might appear to be the perfect place for a porter to meet a new partner, but unfortunately it is not (Assuming you are a male heterosexual like me; I can't speak for the alternatives). The NHS is very hierarchical; in fact its society is not unlike the caste system of India. Porters are on the very lowest level of that pecking order and nurses very rarely "date down". The old cliché of a nurse's ambition to marry a doctor is completely real. Of those who do not marry doctors or have relationships with them, they tend to choose very conventional men who are of an equal or higher status to themselves. I did manage to go on romantic nights out with nurses on three occasions during my twenty-three years of service. None of these instances progressed to a full relationship. All three women lost interest in me for the same reason; it was after they "popped the question", see: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lt9VC005Ds0 and: https://hpanwo-radio.blogspot.com/2020/12/the-gas-spanner-programme-7.html. Of course there were porters who went out with nurses, but all of them were of two varieties; either they were manifestly not wedded to hospital portering or they were able to put on a good act, pretend to be an alpha, see the background links below for details. Obviously both of those options are out of the question for me. Of course not all nurses are the same; they are individuals just like the rest of us, but I never encountered any such individual in my entire career. Or to be precise, it is likely that I did, but peer pressure prevented them from expressing their uniqueness, Conformity is such a prevalent factor in the NHS. nevertheless, you still have a good chance of meeting somebody right for you. There are many women in other PAM's such as domestic, admin, estates and catering, where the taboo against going out with porters is lessened or even absent. You might also meet somebody exceptional in your new life; a courageous woman who battles against peer pressure. Just because I never did it doesn't necessarily prevent you from doing so. It's important not to become cynical and descend into the negative, bitter and heartbreaking world of MGTOW, see background links. I am against creating a persona too. Just be yourself. There's no point finding a girlfriend if they only way you can do so is hiding your real personality beneath a fake facade. It's not a sellers' market out there for a porter, but be positive, be friendly and be confident. There are never guarantees, but you might meet somebody who will be a genuine companion and will make you truly happy. good luck!
See here for background: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2019/10/am-i-mgtow.html.
And: https://hpanwo-voice.blogspot.com/2016/12/why-do-women-never-date-nice-guys.html.
And: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2017/11/nice-guys-update.html.
And: https://hpanwo-tv.blogspot.com/2020/11/nice-guys-reply-to-stefan-molyneux.html.